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Really, you feel the need to ask this?
When you talk to someone, it's polite to look them in their face. Do you talk to other guys' chests when you talk to them? No.
So kindly treat us with the same respect, thank you very much.
EDIT: just to say, it's a lot more objectifying to just stare at our tits than our faces. Yes, you may also be judging our looks from that as well, but you can also hide behind the fact that you're just being polite.
Use some common sense.
What if we're not talking? What if your sitting across from me. Catch me looking at your face and you think "wow he thinks I'm cute". Catch me staring at your tits, why wouldn't you think "wow he thinks I have great tits"
Essentially, for a girl, if you stare at our faces it means you might want to get to know us or you might want to start a relationship.
If you're staring at our tits or bum, however, it makes us feel like you just want to have sex with us, that you're not interested in us as a person and more as an object for sexual desire.
We, or I anyway - can't speak for all girls, feel that if a guy is looking at my face he's having "nicer" thoughts (ie more romantic) than if he's looking at my tits. It basically feels like you're imagining us naked, which isn't a nice feeling.
pretty sure thats what any guy thats interested in you thinks when he's looking at you. face, tits, ass, w/e. its a deep rooted sexual attraction that draws us together. whether women want to admit it or not. pretty sure when a guy is looking at your face, he is not having romantic thoughts about a comeplete stranger. he's more than likely thinking, what would she look like with my load all over her face? so why live in a fantasy world, thinking he is thinking about romantic things, when the thought of a facial is so much more appealing? but the fact is, guys will always look at girls as sexual objects, so why not look at guys the same way(most women do, but won't admit it)? it would save a lot of pointless bullshit. not saying men don't want to get to know you, or be romantic, or start a relationship. what i am saying is that it is the sexual attraction that draws attention to each other first and intiates contact, thus potentially leading to a relationship. (i have no interest in using my shift key today, and i am also was too fucking lazy to proofread this, so grammar nazi punks fuck off(yes that was a dead kennedys reference))
I know that if a guy is looking at a girl's face it's probably in a terms more of sexual satisfaction instead, but it can be other things.
And I know that as much as people go "it's not how someone looks!" There has to be something in a way a person is that starts of the attraction.
To be fair, I had said staring rather than looking. I mean, I get it that both genders check each other out. It's just fixating on a certain spot which is not the face is a bit off.
And as much as you say that it's just about women being sexual objects to men, that's not the case. Otherwise, why bother to have girlfriends and wives?
By "more romantic" I actually meant that you're thinking more along the lines of "gosh she's pretty. I'd like to get to know her" rather than "I want to fuck her"
Yes, you may be thinking that either way but it feels better to us. Also, the face is already naked (ho hum) unlike the body so the thought of a stranger undressing you with their eyes is a little uncomfortable, and rightly so.
Look, it's just a lot more socially acceptable to stare at a female's face rather than her tits or arse. In fact, you could actually get into hot water if you're not sensible with it.
Actually, in the real world, it doesn't matter if you check out a womans body. its to be expected, and is heavily promoted in this society. deep down its about sex. thats my point. you girls can make believe all the fantasys you want, but the reality is simple. love is a chemical fuck up of the brain. sex is instinct, forged into our minds on the most basic level for 1000's of years. women just deny this, for their own attempt at happiness.
Still, it's not something that necessarily makes you feel comfortable. If you want to stare at women's bodies, go online, read a mag, etc, there are plenty of places that let you do that.
I'm not saying there is something wrong with "checking someone out" btw, but just staring at a girl's body is not necessarily nice for us and can make us feel really uncomfortable.
The thing is, you're not really going to see the POV of a female from this, as you're not female yourself.
Why not take it as the complement that it is? Don't be all stuffy and uptight, thats womens problem, they would rather be a bitch than actually stop and appreciate admiration. looking is not a crime, and its free, not one humn has the right to say don't look at me.
Well, if you get a woman being irritated as a result, don't bitch about it yourself, okay?
lol I don't plan to
I wasn't a female myself the last time I checked (I won't tell you when that was) and I somehow manage to get this.
On a sort of "not being a disgusting, small-brained, ruled-by-my-genitals, neanderthal-esque, pig" level.
It's not hard to get XD. Woman are not just there for sex, as much as Sharkdiver seems to thing so.
Bottom like; women do not like being objectified, so don't do it. Or if you do, don't get upset when she gets upset by it.
You can stare at my tits if you like.
I'll remember that.
It's natural for a guy's gaze to fall to a woman's chest if she has a nice rack. It's instinct; typically beyond our control. Take it as a compliment.
See, as soon as a guy says something like this I just find it funny.
Also, the "I'm sorry, but the gravitational pull that your beautiful breast mean that it's exceptionally difficult for me to pull my gaze from them! Please forgive me!" also makes me laugh. And yes, I have heard it.
9 out of 10 times if you're caught staring at a girl's cleavage (which I can understand) saying something similar to that will get you off the hook. Normally with a "well, they are rather fantastic!"
I think this should work too.
Not quite as much humour in it though.
As chivalry is slowly being killed, your explanation is becoming less and less applied. It also doesn't help if a girl is wearing a low-cut shirt and gets mad if a guy is staring at her tits, but thats another story.
Oh, if a girl is wearing a low cut or revealing top, then goes "my face is up here" feel free to continue staring - I also concur that it is asking for it.
You know, I think the saying "chivalry is dead/dying" is a stupid saying. And looking at someone's face whilst talking to them has nothing to do with chivalry, it has to do being polite. It is that simple.
Looking at a person's face suggests that you are paying attention to what they're saying. Even if you're not.
i don't think it is about objectifying. All it means is I'me not listening nd I'me not judging but admiring. its not a bad thing just annoying when people don't listen to you when you are talking to them.
My point to what was said in the image of "what's the difference?"
And my main point is that it's polite. We feel you're paying attention to what we're saying rather than what we look like. Doesn't necessarily mean you are, but hey! It's just polite.
yup exactly...but from a mans perspective...when they are that big?....its kinda hard. like if a dudes bulge went half way down his leg, you cant tell me it wouldn't be hard to stare
I know, I understand when you're not really paying much attention and then BOOM! massive boobies in eyeline and you're like "wow... they're big..."
I've done it myself. At conventions, you get a lot of impressive busts on display and it is kinda a bit of "to face Hello surprised by boobage, look down Hello? back to face when you've realised what you've done Hello! Sorry."
Focusing on a girl's face when talking to her, regardless of your interest, is at the very least a courtesy thing. If you're just openly staring at a girl's chest with no regard for the fact that she notices, that's just saying to her, "I'm not even going to bother with politeness here." Which could be taken to mean that you won't bother with politeness in other ways, too.
That said, if a girl's wearing a low-cut, see-through, or skin-tight top, I think all's fair. If they're staring at me, I'm staring back.
Additionally many revealing tops are literally designed to draw the eye to a woman's cleavage. Eyes love to follow diagonal lines.
ok my question is why do looks matter? why not look at their face's and look into their pretty eyes? a girls eye's should be the first thing you notice about em.
Can't upvote enough!
Eyes are the windows to the soul!
see, im a real man i can admit it, i dont care about sex, i dont care what a girl looks like, its all about their personality
And that's the best kind of men around!
ya to bad that their arnt many around anymore
No, just ones that feel the need to ask what the difference is between the face and tits ¬__¬
the face to unique most of the time theirs only one face that will look like the one your looking at, and tit's everybody has tits....
jfdhs grammar... Sorry, I'm a tad OCD about it.
I understand what you mean though; the face is typically unique to that person. Why waste time to breasts which are essentially the same when a girl is clothed.
Hey, they may not actually be like that - wonder bras, push up etc. There are plenty of things a woman can buy to make her boobs look better.
im actually 5% mentally disabled so i have hard times wording things, so im sorry
No, it's my problem and something I need to sort out. It's because I had a speech impediment as a child (still struggle now, actually - I trip over words like crazy) and so I became obsessed in making sure that my written language was intelligible which then spread into also ensuring other people were understood. Really need to sort it out so I'm not quite so... obsessed...
well nixie im sure your one of the more favorite poster's on here :D your one of my favorite's to talk too
I approve of this comment ^__^
oh im sure you do :D
you a troll^
I LOVE TITS!
all i can say is... WHERE ARE THE TITTIES!!!!!
I hate this fucking bitch on youtube, I feel if it wasn't for horny teen youtubers she'd be a stripper or hooker.
I'm glad I have no ficking clue who this broad is.
If a girl is wearing a revealing shirt with her tits pushed up, she therefore is begging for sexual attention to stimulate her self confidence and possibly clitoris.
Men can look, it is natural. It's like telling a dog to hate bones and ignore them - just don't let the woman see your lecherous (horny) stares or else she will get a severe "stranger danger" feelings if she's not a whore. That is polite and not breaking any laws of nature.
This is the truth that all should follow according to myself who is a 25 year old ex model naturally sexy aspiring medical scientist. I'm not joking ^^
P.S. I don't see a face in the picture. I see a clown makeup gun malfunction with raccoon eyes, whore lips, dyed hair and a crown of ears all in a desperate attempt to get attention and to compliment herself. So I guess I'm forced to look for tits although I'm not even a lesbian.